For the most part, the holidays bring people together to celebrate and be thankful – and the presents are just a bonus. But sometimes the gifts can cause a bit of friction. Usually, it’s nothing we can’t handle; receive a horrendous sweater from your mother-in-law and you merely need to parade around in it for her while she’s over and then shove it in the back of your closet to die. But what if you and your spouse disagree about a toy given to your child? And what does this have to do with HomeFixated?
Friends of mine with a young son (four years old) and a very handy dad recently received a very realistic tool play set from Grandma. The mother (my friend) is considering returning it to the store because she’s afraid the set is sending mixed messages. They’ve been very cautious about their tools (there are many – her husband renovates homes for a living) and have taught their son that tools are not toys (tools are not even supposed to be touched by him yet). Now there is a toy in their home that looks like a bunch of tools. Hence the mixed message thing.
The dad feels bad about returning something from his mom and is wondering if this tool set is a good introduction to his son to tools. The toy itself doesn’t pose any danger (it’s plastic and not from the 1950s – therefore safe), it’s just an issue of their child confusing daddy’s tools with his tool set and / or sending a weird message to the kid.
I don’ t have kids and have therefore learned to keep my parental suggestions to a minimum. But what do you think?
– Is a play set of tools fine (even when very similar-looking tools are available in the home)?
– When should kids be introduced to real tools?
– Have your kids ever received a gift that you were unsure about its appropriateness? What did you do?
If you think there’s nothing to debate and love that picture up there (the set in question), you can pick up the Black And Decker Junior Power Tool Workshop from Amazon for around $60.